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7 Quick takes {vol. 3} Anniversary Edition

It’s the weekend! It’s my anniversary! And I’m linking up with Kelly with a 7 quick takes post!

6 years ago, on a sunny, but chilly, chilly Friday in September, a very young girl and boy stood at the altar and before God and family and friends, vowed to love and honour each other all the days of their life… In good times and in bad, in sickness and in health.

Joy Observed - 7 Quick takes {vol. 3} Anniversary Edition

6 years is not very long in the grand scheme of things (and it certainly doesn’t qualify me as an expert in this whole marriage thing)… but 6 years has sure brought a lot of trials and joys our way. Being married at 19 & 20, we had a lot growing-up to do still. I don’t regret it, though. I’m so glad it was God’s plan for us to mature into adults side by side. I’m thankful it was His plan for us to have a baby 2 months after our 1st anniversary, and then another 14 months after that baby, and another 18 months after that one… and that we will be welcoming another baby within a couple of weeks of celebrating our 6th anniversary.

The love I have for this man is so much greater now than it was on that beautiful day 6 years ago. It’s the struggles we’ve faced that have drawn us to a deeper love and respect for each other. It’s the joys we’ve experienced that help us remember why we entered into this covenant in the first place. I feel like we’ve experienced an abundance of both joy and struggle in the few years we’ve been married, and ultimately, without the graces we’ve received through this sacrament, all our efforts to weather the storms of life would be futile. Grace, grace and more grace.

Joy Observed - 7 Quick Takes {vol. 3} Anniversary Edition

A few things I’ve learned along the way…

{one} Some days are going to be messy; that’s just the reality of two imperfect persons living out this vocation. Don’t let those messy days tempt you to throw in the towel.

{two} Whether you are on a mountain or in a valley, cling to your spouse, cling to Christ. Abandon yourselves and your marriage to His mercy! You didn’t get to that mountain alone and you are equally not going to get out of that valley by your own abilities. You just can’t do it without Christ.

{three} Be merciful with each other — something that is often so much easier said than done for me. One way of putting that into action is not just to say sorry, but to accept your spouse’s apology — however it came out. Yet another thing that is easier said than done for me.

{four} Make time for hearing about the ups and downs of each other’s day. Listen to understand, not just respond.

{five} Speak kindly of your spouse, especially in front of your children. This might sound a little silly, but “speak” kindly of your spouse to yourself. haha

{six} Let yourself feel loved by the way your spouse is showing you love. Not your love language? Oh well. I’ve found that if you choose to recognize that through that action, word, etc, your spouse is really making an effort to show you their love for you, your love tank will deplete a lot less quickly — even if it isn’t being filled by your ideal language. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to show each other love in the most optimal way for your beloved, I just mean that it’s not a realistic expectation to place on your spouse to only accept love in your most ideal language. I think switching to this mindset was one of the best things for me in my marriage; which is why I’m sharing it. If you and your spouse are pros at the whole love language thing, two thumbs up for you! Keep it up!

{seven} Pray for each other. Pray with each other. I admit, the latter is something we are not exceptional at, but we continue to work at it because it’s important. Something we try to pray together everyday is this family consecration prayer.

O Jesus, behold our family prostrate before thee. Once more do we consecrate ourselves to thee; our trials and joys, that our home, like thine, may ever be the shrine of peace, purity, love, labor and faith. Do thou protect and bless all of us, absent, present, living and dead.

O Mary, loving mother of Jesus and our mother, pray to Jesus for our family; for all the families of the world, to guard the cradle of the newborn, the schools of the young and their vocations.

O Joseph, holy guardian of Jesus and Mary, assist us by thy prayers in all the necessities of life. Ask of Jesus that special grace which he granted to thee, to watch over our home at the pillow of the sick and dying, so that with Mary and with thee, heaven may find our family unbroken in the

Sacred Heart of Jesus.

Amen

Wellll, this post took on an entirely different feel than I thought it was going to. haha Originally it was going to be a bunch of poorly taken anniversary photos, but instead it turned into a post on marriage advice. Yikes. haha

God bless and may you have a beautiful weekend!

Joy Observed - 7 Quick takes {vol. 3} Anniversary Edition

 

 

2 Comments

  1. Hannah! first off- I didn’t know you blog. 2nd, -amazing post… especially #5. We try very hard to speak highly of one another, but I’ve never thought of speaking highly of your spouse to yourself. Wow. Thank you. I have never thought about how much of a joy sucker negative self talk is!
    P.s. Happy belated anniversary…remember it like it was yesterday!

    • Thank you, Katie, for your comment. It’s fun to know who is following along, and it’s super humbling when someone is touched by a post. Praise God! I hope your family is well ☺️

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